Moving Abroad: First impression, Blessing or Big Mistake? have your say

Are you a Nigerian Living abroad? What was your first reaction when you got to your current location? Was it a feeling of nostalgia? Did you feel like running back to the plane and returning back home? Or did you feel like, “Wow! I’m finally here. I’m never going to think about where I’m coming from.







I returned to United Kingdom when I was 18years old, having lived with my parents in Ibadan for 11 years, thereby doing my primary and secondary school in Nigeria, before I was bundled back to further my education in London. As a child I grew up on TV soaps as Dallas, Colby and songs from  Sade Adu and Micheal Jackson you build up this false image of 'the Queens Country' 'ILU OBA'! as a land paved with Gold.  


When I landed in Heathrow airport years back now, It was absolutely freezing cold, February to be precise,my cousin picked me up in his car and watching the trees go by, all the houses looked the same, everyone was dressed like 'a mad man or woman' with layers of clothes on completed with scarves and gloves as if they had leprosy, smoke coming out of their mouth and nostrils as if they are PAPA SANGO! God of Thunder with fire oozing out of his mouth. Everyone was in a rush, nobody smiles, nobody says hello. Big Mistake? I cried and cried for nearly a month and longed to go home, called my parents everyday.


My first job was an office cleaner, emptying bins and dusting offices, I remembered going there in the underground and seeing these men rolling and smoking joints!, I thought wow! in London they smoke marijuana in the train and its not legal! (it was rizzlers!). I hated London so much it took me 2 years to adjust. After 20years living in London, I still miss Nigeria, its vibrancy, its colour, owambe parties, the competition etc. London is bills, bills, bills, Isolation, on the good side it has a welfare system in place for the unemployed and constant water and light which ashamedly we still haven't manage to put in place in Nigeria. I suppose to anyone that hears, they pay £10phr, you can work 24hrs 7 days a week and the exchange rate is N250 naira to £1.


Today its different story, the worst thing a Nigerian can do is stay as an illegal immigrant in UK, It is a sad world, where some are forced into prostitution, stealing, begging and worse living in squalor or on the streets. There is no jobs, no health cover absolutely nothing available. 


What is your experience?



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2 comments:

Anonymous said...

For an illegal immigrant who overstayed in the believe of marrying to make my status legal, it has been the biggest mistake of my life. I am stuck in between, cant go back to Nigeria as I use to work in a bank and sold all my property to come to London. I cannot work as I have no papers and I use other peoples documents sometimes, the money gets paid into their account and I live at their mercy. Most of the time I sleep hungry and squat with friends here and there, I have slept on buses, hitched with a guy I detest simply because I need a roof over my head. My lawyer promised to get me papers to work on the basis that 'I look after him'. As a bank manager in Nigeria now here cleaning toilets it has been the biggest mistake I have ever made. My life is hell, I cry everyday and sometimes my mum sends me money from Nigeria, people say go back home, but to what? a failure? I would rather stay here and live in hope. With the terrorist act things have been worse, I have been stopped and searched in the station and at work twice, been in detention for 6 months relased on bail and had to elope. I now live from day to day hoping for a miracle. I will not wish my life on anyone.

Angel Falese said...

Dear friend, I always believe that there is always light at the end of the tunnel and that the most darkest time in the night is when the light is about to break forth into day. Never loose hope, stay strong and believe that with your creator All things ARE possible. It saddens my heart to read your story but I know you will soon witness a turnaround and this will be a story of how you overcame. Seek good legal counsel and contact me if you need to through my Skype, as a Spiritual coach it is always good to talk. God bless you my sister.

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