Happy Fathers Day, Who? .....Am a Sperm Donor Citizen!

What happens when, My Fathers name is 'Donor'! 'The Father's role is fundamental to a child, while the mother nurtures a child in the home to love and care, the Father introduces the child to the world, teaching them how to interact, developing their interpersonal skills, identity and values etc.', I once attended the annual Christian National prayer Breakfast held in the House of Parliament, for all Christians active in Politics and Charity Organisations in the UK. I was privilege to meet Kids Company founder Camila Batmanghelidjh who said the above!. This is mostly visible in the lives of boys. Without a father figure the child …we find that adolescent boys engage in more delinquent behaviour if there is no father figure in their lives.

In today's society, each year an estimated 30,000-60,000 children are born in the USA  and Europe via artificial insemination. Mostly to Lesbian mothers and over 40's women who feel they don't need a man to have a baby, all they need to do is visit a sperm bank, get matched up and boom! artificial Insemination(man visits sperm bank, does his stuff in a bottle $25 per session and it gets inserted into the woman using a needleless syringe) and out pops the baby.  One donor NY times reported had more than 150 kids and still counting!
My Daddy's Name is Donor, co-authored by Elizabeth Marquardt, Norval D. Glenn and Karen Clark, is the first serious study to evaluate the implications of sperm donations on children without fathers.

THE REPORT said these children suffer more than those who were adopted: hurting more, feeling more confused, and feeling more isolated from their families.  The donor offspring are more likely than the adopted to have struggled with addiction and delinquency and, similar to the adopted, a significant number have confronted depression or other mental illness. Nearly half of donor offspring, and more than half of adoptees, agree, "It is better to adopt than to use donated sperm or eggs to have a child.
Nowadays you don't have to put the fathers name onto the birth certificate and in 2010, 'father' was replaced with '2nd partner' for lesbians. Natalie Woods, 38, and Elizabeth Knowles, 47, from Brighton became mother and partner(out goes father!) on the birth certificate.

No wonder our young generation are confused, the highest percentage of young offenders in prison are from fatherless homes.

How sad, my question is, do the Donor Children celebrate Fathers day?

Psalm 127:3-5  Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.



Anonymous said...

No. I am a donor kid and do not. I am a teenager now and struggle with this a lot. I hate Father's Day. I am from a single mom, so I have 1 parent I do not reccomend AI it only kills the child when they get older! It's torture! Trust me! I know!

angelfalese.com said...

Dear Friend, To say I understand what you are going through as a 'Donor kid' will be a lie, but one thing we all have in common is that everyone has one thing or the other they wish weren't in their life and that is including me as a Christian we call it 'a cross' or 'thorn in the flesh', but somehow our cross, burden or pain becomes our strength, what pushes us to overcome, to become a voice and strength to others. We are whom we are because of what we come through, All I know is that nobody is here by mistake and everyone is born for a purpose, and we take our key from our stories. In essence our test of today is our testimony of tomorrow

ml66uk said...

"My Daddy's Name is Donor" is hardly a serious study.  Most of the people who responded to their survey seem to have been known activists or people just filling in a survey for money.  One of their findings was that 20% of donor-conceived people are themselves gamete donors, which is clearly not true.

The American Psychological Association on the other hand recently said this:
"On the basis of a remarkably consistent body of research on lesbian and gay parents and their children, the American Psychological Association (APA) and other health professional and scientific organizations have concluded that there is no scientific evidence that parenting effectiveness is related to parental sexual orientation. That is, lesbian and gay parents are as likely as heterosexual parents to provide supportive and healthy environments for their children. This body of research has shown that the adjustment, development and psychological well-being of children are unrelated to parental sexual orientation and that the children of lesbian and gay parents are as likely as those of heterosexual parents to flourish."


Children with two mothers actually seem to do better than children with a mother and a father.

There are probably well over 100,000 children born each year in the USA and Europe using donor gametes btw, and that's not including cases where no clinic is used, or where the husband's sperm is used.